Bad Guy

Well, hello everyone, I hope you had a Merry Christmas. Mine was absolutely horrible!

If you haven't read about Dizzy yet, you might wanna go back and read about her first. Just click here.

When I first met Dizzy she was "getting" a divorce. That usually means that both parties have agreed to separate right? Well, I guess her husband (we'll nickname Midget) didn’t get the memo. As with what seems to happen with every woman I date, SOMEHOW their EX gets access to my phone number.

Of course I start getting the threatening messages, endless phone calls, etc. Dizzy begs me to ignore Midget, she doesn't want to make it worse (this is the pattern that will follow throughout this blog). So I ignored him. Everytime he tried to prove me, she would beg me to ignore him, and I would. Sad because it didn't help. I should've said what I wanted and maybe things would've gone a different route. Who knows...

Over my Halloween trip home, Midget runs into Dizzy, me, and her kids at Wal-Mart. By "runs" I mean he runs all thuggish up to me like he was going to attack me (and fulfill every text and voicemail he has ever sent me). So I push him away from me (almost knocking him to the ground). I mean, this guy is really short...he's so used to being able to control those around him that he actually thought I was scared of him. Then when Dizzy and I were leaving Wal-Mart, he tries to block us in and is standing outside of her car window shouting all sort of obscenities. I managed to back the car out and escape. Of course, from Dizzy's perspective, I'm the bad guy in this situation for two reasons. - 1. (And I QUOTE) "You should've have put your hands on him." and 2. Her kids were in the car with Midget and I was the bad guy for driving away from him (while he was driving recklessly to prevent our exit). I let all of this slide...

Then on Christmas-Eve I started getting text messages from Midget on how he and Dizzy had been having sexual relationships as recent as 10 days ago. He even described a sign that hung up on the door to my basement. Now I knew that he was at my house to drop of his kids' gifts (of course Dizzy did tell me that he'd never be there, EVER!). So I really didn't believe him.

Christmas morning Dizzy and I were having a great morning. That is of course until Midget, who wanted his kids for both Christmas-Eve and all of Christmas Day, realized that having his kids wasn't going to get Dizzy to want to be with him. So he started calling her and I had to spend over an hour downstairs by myself listening to Dizzy and Midget spat it out.

Dizzy and I went to leave around 11:00 am that morning and Midget pulled up behind me before I could back out. Dizzy said "Just lock the doors". I did and then I pulled around the house and got around him. He then proceeded to try to run us off the road. I call 911, Dizzy calls Midget's mom and she finds out that their 5 year old son is in the vehicle with him. While I'm trying to avoid hitting him, escape him (remember, I got in trouble for touching him last time), and talking to 911, she wants me to just pull over. We get onto Rt. 50 and he passes us and takes the Rt. 47 exit. I wasn't going to take the exit but Dizzy told me to. I pull up behind them and Midget jumps out and runs back to my window and starts beating on it.

Dizzy jumps out and runs to his vehicle to get her son. She opens the back door and leans into get unbuckle him. Midget runs behind her, lifts her legs up and throws her into the back of the car. Then shuts the door and takes off. My HEART SANK! I proceeded to follow them all the while being on the phone with 911. Midget is driving crazily through Parkersburg trying to ditch me. He eventually does when I stopped to point them out to a cop. They didn't catch up with them.

Around 15 minutes later Dizzy calls me from Midget's mom's house and says "I'm fine, he just dropped us off here and left. He just wanted me to be with the kids. Don't call the cops. He didn't abduct me." I flip out! WTF! So her purse, cell phone, and keys are in my front seat and she left willingly with Midget? As God as my witness, I will never forget the sight of the woman I love being kidnapped by a psycho! This was my biggest fear the whole time I dated her. He was just crazy enough to think that he could just do with her whatever he wanted...well I guess he was right. She didn't press charges against him. She told the cops (and her family) that she was sitting in the back seat and he just shut the door. There are only a few words I will never tolerate being called - a LIAR is one of them. I know what I saw, and she'll never convince me otherwise.

So of course, after realizing that she was going to gloss-over (defend) his actions, then I knew this wasn't the life that I wanted. I packed my stuff up and left. We were supposed to talk later that evening.

Well, later that evening I was sitting at a friends house tying a few cold ones on. She shows up there with an Ex-Boyfriend from over 10 years ago that she said was "just friends". Well, I'm sorry, this being the first time I've ever met him, and the fact that she and I are fighting, I didn't take well to being taunted.

So I left and sent her a few drunken, albeit inappropriate, text messages. I wasn't very nice, but I felt provoked and hurt by the fact that she had defended Midget's actions and then chose to spend her Christmas night with her Ex-boyfriend instead of working things out with me. Also it doesn't help that she's practically lived at my house rent free, I've lent her money to repair her windshield and both mirrors (both of which Midget broke), so I felt a little used.

The next day we spoke, or should I say I got yelled at and just listened:
- I was the bad guy for running (EVEN THOUGH LAST TIME I WAS WRONG FOR PUSHING HIM).
- I was the bad guy for calling the cops on him (EVEN THOUGH THE LAST TIME I TOUCHED HIM HE PRESSED CHARGES AGAINST ME).
- I was the bad guy for putting her son in danger (HE WASN'T IN MY CAR).
- I was bad guy and hateful for texting her inappropriately (EVEN THOUGH I WAS DRUNK AND PROVOKED).

I guess I'm just the bad guy!!!

Well, I don't wish Dizzy any ill intentions. Maybe one day she'll find a person that will be willing to put up with as much stuff as I did, and then more. I feel so sick to my stomach that I even thought that this would ever work.

So needless to say, I'm looking forward to traveling back to Austin. It's time for me to truly live the life I was meant to live there. Oh, and I have a house for sale if anyone is interested! ;-)

Take care and everyone have a safe and Happy New Years!!!